9 Attractive Qualities Women Look for in a Guy
My friends and I have spent many a long night brainstorming that magic formula of characteristics that drives the ladies wild. It is impossible to know just what the mixture is supposed to be, but is there one characteristic that can work alone to make a guy really attractive?
Here are the nine characteristics we’ve come up with:
Sense of Humor
Everyone says how important sense of humor is, and I have learned to look for it in women. I am lucky enough to be able to make women laugh, but I’m still super single.
Trustworthy
Trust is the holy grail of a relationship. It takes years to build it, and it is so delicate. There are few things that take so long to attain that can be destroyed so quickly. So a lot of us may finally settle on a very trustworthy person when we finally find that.
Kindness
This seems like a no-brainer, but I’ve seen plenty of girls stay with guys who don’t treat them well. So, I’m thinking that most women look for a nice guy, but the fact of the matter is that mean guys seem to get girlfriends too-and at a better rate than nice guys.
Money
I admit it: I sometimes envision myself marrying rich and sitting there doing nothing. I could lie out on my wife’s yacht and host lavish parties and hear about how crazy the Roaring 20’s were, when my wife’s friends were my age. Money is definitely high on a lot of people’s list: remember when Anna Nicole Smith married that really old rich guy? I doubt it was because she thought he was hot, funny, or great in the sack.
Super Hot
As much as we hate to admit it, the first thing we notice about someone else is how good or bad they look. But one of the first lessons we learn in the dating world is as beautiful as someone is on the outside, they could be ugly on the inside.
Confident
Confidence is based on a lot of these characteristics. You are confident if you are talented, super hot, intelligent, or wealthy most likely. But confidence also enables you to treat people better, so you are kind and trustworthy as well. Because confidence includes so many of these other characteristic, it may just be the one major thing women look for in a man.
Talented & Passionate
When someone possesses a special skill, such as visual art or guitar virtuosity, they get tons of girls. People like Jimi Hendrix, Led Zeppelin, and Tom Brady can go out with anyone they want because they are skilled. Heck, I’d go out with them. Usually skill occurs in tandem with passion, another attractive quality. When someone is really good at something, but not “hot,” it makes sense that they can still attract a lot of women. It’s less annoying to see someone like this in a relationship than it is to see a rich mean guy in a relationship.
Intelligent
I am intimidated by women who are more intelligent than I am (which explains why I’m intimidated by about 97% of the female population). For a lot of people, intelligence is sexy. When someone is stupid, it’s frustrating and boring, which is enough to drive someone away.
Convenient
One can argue that convenience is a huge driver for a relationship. Does he live near you, is he “ready” to be in a relationship, does he want to have kids or not? Everything matches up correctly. Sure, he may not be the best-looking guy or have a lot of money, but it’s just what you need and it’s been a long, difficult search.
If we put these characteristics on a pie chart, what would get the biggest piece of the pie with you? Again, some of these characteristics occur together: intelligence and wealth, talent and passion, kindness and generosity, convenience and wealth.
How often do women care about superficial things like money? It’s scary, but sometimes I fear that no matter how funny I am, if I had lots of money I could date any cute girl I wanted.
How do all of these characteristics shake out for you when choosing a boyfriend, and are there any you’d add to the list? Does confidence just take all of these characteristics into consideration?
104Inc.com
http://www.articlesbase.com/relationships-articles/9-attractive-qualities-women-look-for-in-a-guy-676949.html
Hello From Cuernavaca – Part 7 – A Conversation With Andie Grater, Local B
I am currently staying at, “La Nuestra”, a comfortable bed and breakfast with 4 guest rooms, a private swimming pool and an outdoor breakfast area complete with microwave and fridge, which has a rather interesting story. It is co-owned by two women, Andie Grater and Nancy Gray, who are both originally from the United States.
Originally from Brooklyn, Andie had lived in Atlanta for 20 years and become an expert in advertising production and management while Nancy, on the other hand, had been involved in the screen printing business. Nancy represented several American companies in the Latin American market and spent quite a bit of time in Latin America, including Cuernavaca, and this was the beginning to their Mexican adventure.
Andie’s comments shed light on the decision to relocate to a foreign country and the inevitable issues of culture shock and psychological adjustment that go along with the move to a strange land. Her story will also illustrate coping mechanisms and the fact that the human spirit will indeed adjust over time.
As Nancy had been spending more and more time in Mexico, Andie and Nancy were starting to think it might actually be nice to live somewhere else. Cuernavaca might be a good destination since it was close enough to easily go back and forth. Andie had attended a Spanish course at the Cetlalic Alternative Language School and had a chance to meet a lot of people from Cuernavaca’s local gay community and Cuernavaca increasingly looked like an interesting destination.
Both women thought that it might be a good idea to move to Cuernavaca, a goal they decided to accomplish in the New Millennium. So Andie decided to give up her job in advertising which was made easier by the after-effects of 911 which had severely affected the advertising industry.
Andie worked for a month with the previous owner of Villa San Marcos to gain some practical experience running a bed and breakfast. So the women put their furniture into storage in Atlanta and after their arrival in Cuernavaca they first lived in a furnished apartment. They later moved into an unfurnished condo, a rather bare place, which Andie describes as “graduate student living”. Andie admitted that as you get older these types of transitions get just a little harder.
Prior to their purchase, their B&B had been empty for five years. Once they acquired the property, they invested another year of renovations into La Nuestra. Building a clientele from scratch is always an issue for new entrepreneurs and Andie indicated that their clients mostly find them through the Internet and through word of mouth. In addition, Andie sent many news releases to independent booksellers and feminist book stores to request that the information about their B&B be put on their bulletin boards.
As new B&B owners, Andie and Nancy also decided to advertise on three web sites, two sites about Mexico and one site dedicated to gay travelers. Andie stressed, however, that their target market is not only the gay community, but people from all walks of life. Travellers come from the United States (California, Minnesota, and various places in the north), but also from Canada. In addition, they also host many weekend guests from Mexico City. Many of their guests don’t even move when they come here, they just relax in the beautiful garden by the pool and say this place feels just like home.
I asked Andie to elaborate on this process of cultural transition which they went through after they first relocated to Mexico. At first they felt excited, the place was new, they were learning the language, and there was this general feeling of newness that made everything so interesting.
But as the newness wore off, feelings of culture shock started to settle in. Andie experienced frustrations as she had to adjust to the Mexican concepts of time and reliability. Adjusting to the much more relaxed concept of time was difficult, especially since Andie had been living her life in Atlanta with a strict agenda. The unreliability of workmen and repair people was also a frequent source of frustrations. Andie told me a few stories of her renovation project and mentioned that workers might show up a day later or sometimes not at all.
On the other hand she was impressed by the easy-going attitude of local Mexican people and commented that they are very helpful when you make an effort to speak Spanish. Traffic can also be quite bad in this city. On the issue of cultural adjustment Andie said, that one of her friends commented on how great it must be to live in this new place while Andie admitted that many times this adjustment phase was really tough on her, especially at the beginning. She was missing her friends, her culture, her familiar environment.
Now things are much better. Andie runs an organization called the Newcomers Club which is an association of recent, mostly English-speaking residents, of Cuernavaca. The club had been in existence for 15 years, but had not been very active. Andie became president about four years ago, and the club now has around 170 members, ranging in age all the way from their forties and up. The oldest member is 91 years old.
The Cuernavaca Newcomers Club has a number of functions:
- It welcomes new English-speaking residents and helps them find their way
- It publishes a service directory every 2 years
- It provides a buddy system
- The club hosts a variety of social events throughout the year
- Speakers are invited to the club’s meetings and speak on various topics of interest, such as ecology, globalization, alternative health, investments and many more.
- The club is involved in a variety of charity projects as well.
The Newcomers Club holds two big social events a year: a cocktail party in September and a holiday party around Christmas time. Evening events include guitar concerts, talks on topics of interest and a “studio crawl” where the group visits different artists’ studios around town. An increasing number of social events will be held over the summer months as well, which used to be a quieter time.
One of the Newcomers Club’s most important involvements is in philanthropy. At Christmas members are encouraged to adopt a family in collaboration with the Episcopal Church. The club itself is non-denominational, but the church provides a list of 15 of the most needy families. Then, with the help of donations, the club purchases boxes of basic items that are given away to these needy families.
The Newcomers Club is also involved with a Mexican Charity called “Caminamos Juntos” which was founded by Susan Smith, a Canadian woman. Caminamos Juntos para la Salud y el Desarollo dedicates itself to helping one specific Mexican village in the state of Guerrero. This village has many problems: the water supply contains a toxic level of arsenic, there is a lot of poverty and alcohol abuse. Every month Caminamos Juntos asks for different supplies, e.g. in September the charity requests school supplies, in December it requests blankets, and at Christmas the charity request non-battery operated toys.
Andie indicated that the average age of newcomers to Cuernavaca is in their 50s. She added that dollars go a lot further in Cuernavaca than they would in Florida or the Caribbean.
In addition to volunteering with the Newcomers Club, Andie also donates her time to a local library called the Guild House. She volunteers four Friday mornings a months, two in the library, two with the Newcomers Club. Together with her work as a B&B owner at La Nuestra this keeps her busy.
Nowadays she still goes to back home to the United States about 4 to 5 times a year. Nancy and Andie still have a small apartment in Atlanta where they stay when they go home. Andie and I had a great conversation about her travel experiences in Israel and Spain, and about Latin machismo which also manifests itself on the road (a woman cutting a man off on the road will definitely incur his wrath, while the opposite is just considered normal).
I am one of these people who thinks that one day in my life I’ll probably try to spend 2 or 3 months of the year in a warm place, and Andie’s experience in Cuernavaca has given me some valuable insights about the decision-making process, the cultural adjustment phase, and the rewards of getting involved in a local volunteer organization.
For the entire article including photos please visit
http://www.travelandtransitions.com/stories_photos/cuernavaca_7.htm
Susanne Pacher
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The Gold Zone
Betsy (my domestic partner) and I were just talking about the difference between how things feel when you’re in the “gold zone” and how they feel when you’re not.
Julia Cameron calls it the “Vein of Gold,” and wrote a great book about it. Athletes call it “the zone.”
Let’s call it the “Gold Zone.”
She was reminding me of the months right before I got serious about internet marketing.
I had been a working musician since I was 15. I went “on the road” the first time when I was 17. I was gone for three months, and it was hard on me and hard on my family when I had to come back from being “on the road” to finish high-school. I took several detours, but for the most part, I was a musician for over thirty years.
In spite of some success, I never really “made it” as a musician.
I got really, really close a few times… but something would always go wrong.
For example- in 2003, I played an extended tour of Europe. We went to Sweden, Holland, France, and England. I played from Bogner Regis in the far south of England all the way up to the Isle of Aaron in Northern Scotland. It was a wonderful tour, and the people seemed to like my music.
The scenery was breathtaking- from Moose in Sweden to the Holy Isle in Scotland to the coffee shops in Amsterdam to the street performers in London…
Everything was wonderful except… things kept going wrong. My band-mates made the decision to stay completely amphibious for the whole tour. Blame it on Amsterdam. The big festival in Sweden got no promotion, and nobody came. That’s a long way to drive to play for twenty people.
And then I got robbed at Waverley Abbey, outside of London. Lost both guitars and all the money. And my passport.
I was clearly not in the “gold zone.”
After I finally got home- and believe me, with no money and no passport, getting home was tricky- I took some time off to think things through.
I had started researching the internet marketing game, and met some of the players. It was interesting… but there were a lot of unknowns. There were also some very steep (but relatively short) learning curves involved.
So, while I was thinking, my agents booked another tour- this time to Germany.
That was the tour when all hell broke loose.
Betsy was alone with the boys, both of whom woke up one morning and decided to start acting like the teenagers they were. It was like fishing at the old pond, where the most dangerous thing you’d had to deal with was a catfish, and suddenly a fifty-foot alligator jumps in the boat.
And I was over 3,000 miles away.
After that tour, I really did some thinking.
I either had to move to Europe and play music, or do something else. Moving to Europe, at that time, just wasn’t going to work… and, more importantly, it just didn’t feel right. Betsy and the boys also had strong opinions about that.
Worse, every time I strapped on my guitar, I felt like the “rock-star police” were going to arrest me. For impersonating a musician. I never once felt authentic as a musician.
This is odd- I was an award-winning songwriter, with a recording contract, zealous agents, and a publishing deal.
I was a fraud.
I know some “real” musicians. I have a guitar-player friend who has several gold records on his wall. He tours with a band that has had #1 singles. When he’s home, he sits in his studio and plays guitar. For fun.
I once heard an interview with YoYo Ma, and it really touched me. He talked about the most wonderful moments of his life. Those moments are when he takes his million dollar+ cello out of its case and sits alone, just loving the sound and touch of his instrument.
My guitars stay in their cases between tours. That was a clue.
Ever since I discovered internet marketing, I’ve been in the “Gold Zone.” It was like finally seeing the “Pull” sign on a door I had been trying to push open for decades.
Duh.
It was crystal-clear to me.
I “got it” at the first internet marketing seminar I attended.
The people who were successful were the ones who made products and sold them.
The people who were not successful were the ones who did something else- or did nothing.
I had a lot of help. I’ve immersed myself in internet marketing, read scores of books, and sought out the company of successful internet marketers. I threw myself at learning curves, and bounded right up them.
I had a blast. I quickly made a pile of money. I found my “Gold Zone.”
Have you found your “Gold Zone,” yet?
It’s easy- especially in the internet marketing world. You can make a good, even a GREAT, living by solving other people’s problems. It pays well, and it’s karmically good for you. You can pick almost any subject- cooking, driving, relationships, ebook authoring, etc… anything but how to get rich online (please- unless you have become rich online), and build a portable empire by solving problems in that niche.
I have a saying, which will eventually be turned into a book- “Every problem is a product.”
My most popular book- which I give away- is “The Absolute Beginner’s Guide to Internet Wealth.” It was easy to write. I just identified the five essential problems that “Absolute Beginners” to internet marketing have and gave the solutions.
Thousands and thousands of people now have copies of that book. That’s good for them, because the book really does line out all the problems and solutions that a new internet marketer needs to know about.
It’s good for me. I used that book to build a large and responsive list. I also get the psychic benefits of helping a lot of people- I like that.
So, I make money and I help others. Perfect niche.
How can you tell if you’re in your “Gold Zone?” Things get real easy.
One of the things I stress to my coaching clients is, “if this is hard for you, you’re doing it wrong.”
If you find yourself getting bogged down and disinterested in your topic- you’ve picked the wrong topic. Quickly choose another one. If your subscribers consistently choose to not buy your products, quickly change your strategy. In the online world, you can make dramatic changes instantly.
Life is too short to bang your head against the door marked “pull.” You can push and push and bang and hit and throw bombs and cry and just generally exhaust yourself… and the door will stay closed.
I would say that the most important thing you can do to improve your life is find your “Gold Zone.” Find your passion, and then find people to pay you for doing what you love.
Quit banging on the door and just open it.
Pat O’bryan
http://www.articlesbase.com/home-business-articles/the-gold-zone-126756.html
aggressive skates or electric guitar lessons?
Alright, I am 15 years old and can’t decide which I should do…. I only have enough money for 200$ aggressive skates or like 10 weeks of guitar lessons. Give me reasons on which I should do?
think of which one you would benifit more from, for aggressive skates are you going to do road hockey or whatever alot?
and do you think that you’ll really like electric guitar after a week or so?
I would try maybe some okay skates and a couple weeks of guitar lessons
what guitar company makes good electric guitars for cheap?
im looking for a company that makes good electric guitars but that arent very expensive say in the 200-300 dollar range. i was looking at the Epiphone and Squire but was wondering if they were well made. i know Epiphone is the foreign Gibson and Squire is the foreign Fender.
In that range, quality will be very similar.
Epiphones under 1000 bucks (and especially the low end like you are talking) come apart. Chrome and plastic hardware. Not good. But they put decent (for the cheapest of the cheap) electronics in. Myself, I would never touch a cheap Epiphone.
For cheap electric guitars (maybe acoustic too… I’ve never owned one of theirs) Ibanez really excels in the low-end. I have a 300 dollar Ibanez Les Paul copy (their model: ART 100) that is pretty impressive for a 300 dollar guitar. Their RG series is famous for being low-priced, good quality (for the price) rock guitar.
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According to most people, you don’t really get a ‘good quality guitar’ for under 1000 dollars, which is true to a point. But I’m not playing at the Palladium tonight, and I’m guessing you aren’t either. I wouldn’t go less than a 200 dollar guitar (and it better be on sale) for a beginner.
And while the quality may not be GREAT, mass production has come a long way. A 300-500 dollar Chinese-built guitar sounds just fine in your garage.
Can Guitar Hero be enjoyed by yonger kids?
I have 2 sons, 5 and 8. Will they be able to play Guitar Hero? They’re pretty tech savvy and I’m not concerened about the music choices (they love listening to my old 80’s CD’s) – I’m just wondering if the level of difficulty is aimed toward teens, or if kids could play too?
I thought about getting them that "I can play guitar" by Fisher Price, but I’m thinking the Guitar Hero would have more longevity (and mom can play too. 
Yes. Perhaps not the 2 yr old so much but our town had a Guitar Hero competition and a 5 year old won! Played it behind his back etc. Great eye/hand coordination training.
Good guitar shops in New York City?
i was thinking of buying my 5th guitar, but i want to look around before i make my decision….i figured new york city would be the best place to look around. What are the best guitar shops in New York City?
Sam Ash on 163 West 48th street.
Is there any guitar stores in Brooklyn?
i want a fender electric guitar.
does anyone know the names and locations of any guitar stores in Brooklyn where they have fenders? thanks
http://www.southsideguitars.com/
http://www.rivingtonguitars.com/
Del Pilar Guitars 220 Atlantic Ave Brooklyn, NY 11201
(718) 858-6564
Google will show you lots more.
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12 Bar Blues Guitar Lessons : Bending Notes on an Electric Guitar
When playing an electric guitar, learn from a professional guitarist how to bend notes, and get that soulful blues sound, when playing 12-bar blues in this free music lesson on video.
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